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April 5, 2008

Therapists: Only minutes needed for best sex

Filed under: Lifestyle — halfevil @ 8:53 pm
NEW YORK (AP) — Maybe men had it right all along: It doesn’t take long to satisfy a woman in bed. A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life.

If that sounds like good news to you, don’t cheer too loudly. The time does not count foreplay, and the therapists did rate sexual intercourse that lasts from 1 to 2 minutes as “too short.”

Researcher Eric Corty said he hoped to ease the minds of those who believe that “more of something good is better, and if you really want to satisfy your partner, you should last forever.”

The questions were not gender-specific, said Corty (who, it must be noted, is male). But he said prior research has shown that both men and women want foreplay and sexual intercourse to last longer.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes. (Women were armed with stopwatches.)

It’s difficult for both older men and young men to make sexual intercourse last much longer, said Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, Md.

“There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually,” Brandon said. “Most people’s sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are.”

Fifty members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the U.S. and Canada were surveyed by Corty, an associate professor of psychology at Penn State Erie, The Behrend College, and student Jenay Guardiani. Thirty-four members, or 68%, responded, although some said the optimal time depended on the couple.

Corty said he hoped to give an idea of what therapists find to be normal and satisfactory among the couples they see.

“People who read this will say, ‘I last five minutes or my partner lasts 8 minutes,’ and say, ‘That’s OK,’” he said. “They will relax a little bit.”

Copyright 2008 The Associated Press. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.

A pregnant man

Filed under: Lifestyle — halfevil @ 10:54 am
An Oregon man who used to be a woman says he is pregnant with a baby girl.

Thomas Beatie’s first-person story appears in the April issue of The Advocate, a Los Angeles-based newsmagazine for lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgendered people.

According to the story, Mr. Beatie was born a woman but decided to become a transgender male and legally changed his sex to male. He had his breasts surgically removed and started bimonthly testosterone injections, but kept his vagina.

Now identifying as male, Mr. Beatie legally married Nancy Beatie, the story says. The pair wanted a biological baby but Ms. Beatie was unable to carry a child. So they decided Mr. Beatie would carry the child.

“How does it feel to be a pregnant man,” Mr. Beatie writes in the article. “Incredible. Despite the fact that my belly is growing with a new life inside me, I am stable and confident being the man that I am. In a technical sense I see myself as my own surrogate, though my gender identity as male is constant. To Nancy, I am her husband carrying our child … I will be my daughter’s father, and Nancy will be her mother. We will be a family.”

Before getting pregnant he stopped injecting testosterone, and his body “regulated itself after about four months,” he writes in the Advocate piece.

One year and nine doctors later, the couple got access to a cryogenic sperm bank and purchased anonymous donor vials for a home insemination. Without the aid of fertility drugs, progesterone or exogenous estrogen, Mr. Beatie got pregnant, he says. But the pregnancy was ectopic, and rarer still, with triplets. After surgery, Mr. Beatie lost all his embryos and his right fallopian tube.

But the second pregnancy has been a success, writes Mr. Beatie: “We are happily awaiting her birth, with an estimated due date of July 3, 2008.”

The National Post could not independently confirm the story. But Michelle Garcia, an editorial assistant at the magazine, said The Advocate verified the pregnancy with Mr. Beatie’s gynecologist. She said a photo on the site of a shirtless, heavily pregnant man sprouting facial hair is indeed Mr. Beatie.

Yesterday, the couple– who run a T-shirt printing company called Define Normal — refused to tell their story, citing U.S. deals with TV and print media outlets.

“It’s a big deal and we want to be able to tell our story,” Ms. Beatie told the National Post. “We’d love everybody on board as long as they’re understanding and are going to tell our story and not their own.”

Mr. Beatie writes in The Advocate that “wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a human desire.

“Our situation ultimately will ask everyone to embrace the gamut of human possibility and to define for themselves what is normal.”

Ethicist Margaret Somerville says Mr. Beatie’s story speaks to the uprooting of the biologically natural family, a process that began with same-sex marriage.

“Once you take away that fundamental biological reality, once you say that family is what you define it as … then you can do this sort of thing,” said Ms. Somerville, founding director of the McGill Centre for Medicine, Ethics and Law.

“Where I would do a reversal on this is to say, ‘You’ve artificially made yourself a man. You’re not a man, you’re a woman and you’re having a baby and you’re actually having your own baby. Just because you put on a clown suit, doesn’t mean that you don’t still exist underneath.’ “

She added: “It’s a very touchy thing, this deconstruction of our biological reality and the institutions that have existed across all kinds of societies over thousands and thousands of years to establish stability, respect and certainty. I think we’re just playing with fire.”

School bans boy, 3, over haircut

Filed under: Lifestyle — halfevil @ 5:25 am
Tavis Cook

Tavis chose the hairstyle himself

A three-year-old boy has been banned from his Tyneside nursery school class for his trendy “tramlines” haircut.

The mother of Tavis Cook was told the youngster’s distinctive hairdo broke the rules of Riverside primary School in North Shields.

Donna Cook has been told to keep her son away until his hair grows back.

North Tyneside Council said it was aware of the matter and was advising Ms Cook on her options. No-one at the school was available for comment.

Miss Cook took the youngster to the barber’s where he chose the trendy hairstyle.

He is the most placid, lovely lad, he’s never in trouble
Donna Cook

But less than an hour after dropping the youngster off for nursery class the next morning, she was telephoned and asked to return to collect him.

Miss Cook, 21, a mother of two, of Cardonnel Street, North Shields, said: “The wall of the barber’s shop was covered with hundreds of pictures of different haircuts.

“Tavis marched straight up and picked out the one where the man had tramlines.

“I’d checked with the school and been told there was no uniform policy for either the nursery year or reception year, and I thought the haircut looked good.

“When I arrived he was in floods of tears. I can’t believe they’d do this to a little boy like Tavis.

“He is the most placid, lovely lad, he’s never in trouble.”

A spokesman for North Tyneside Council said: “We are aware of this issue and are currently advising the parent on the matter.”

A spokesman from Riverside Primary School said head teacher Dame Mary MacDonald was not available for comment.

Angelina’s sexy teen photos revealed!

Filed under: Pics --- Humour — halfevil @ 5:24 am

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Years before she became an internationally famous sex symbol, a teenage Angelina Jolie had what it took to be a swimsuit model — as In Touch exclusively reveals in these photos. Shot by photographer Sean McCall — and videotaped — the striking images depict a beautiful 16-year-old Angelina posing for a sensual modeling shoot.

Check out more Angelina’s sizzling shots in the new In Touch.

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